(By Sahnya Mehra; January 2018)
In India, the word ‘Sanskaar’ is tossed around loosely. But how many of us truly know what it means to be a ‘sanskaari beta’?
When you ask the average Indian millennial what the word means, it’s most likely that they’ll immediately roll their eyes, sigh deeply, and tell you of the last time someone (usually an elderly person) went on and on at them for not being ‘sanskaari’.
The word, though of Sanskrit origin, has ambiguous meanings. Some would define it as code of conduct, while others tend to see it as more of a set of moral values. Generally, it’s a sort of way of life of Indian people – more tangible than an ideology, yet not as binding as a culture.
It’s also a sort of rite of passage into adulthood. For example, the piercing of a child’s ear, the sacred Thread Ceremony of the Brahmins, marriage, etc. can also be considered sanskaar, as they serve to move a person through the stages of childhood, adolescence, and adulthood.
It’s also something that people have diverse and compelling opinions about, and evokes equally varied reactions amongst Indians, especially the youth, who are simultaneously caught between the modern and traditional spheres of life.
Indians are considered to be some of the most conservative people, so it’s no surprise that the youth tends to follow many rules and practices set by their elders. To a lot of Indian youngsters, the concept of a conservative sense of morality is extremely important. Many say that they like the sense of righteousness and discipline that it brings about, along with the fact that they feel like the concept of sankaar is integrated into their life seamlessly, and has been for generations, especially when it comes to respect for their elders and their family. They find it important to follow certain traditions that adhere to the concept, as they feel that it reflects on their family and quality of upbringing. For example, Indians, along with many other South Asian cultures, practice the act of removing one’s footwear before entering a home. This is done for several reasons – some of which being the need for cleanliness, along with respect for the Gods, which are often represented as idols in people’s homes.
Yet, on the other hand, many say that they would willingly go against the concept of sanskaar. In the sense that, they would go against the societal concept, if it should ever infringe on their own personal core values. Also, if the ideology is causing any harm to an individual or animal in any way, they would openly and vehemently oppose it. For instance, many feel like certain concepts of sanskaar clash with feminist beliefs, like the performing of ‘Last Rites’ of a Hindu funerary ceremony. According to tradition, a woman isn’t allowed to perform any rites for a deceased person at their funeral. Only a male family member, like the brother or son, can. Similarly, in Muslim tradition, women aren’t allowed into graveyards. This is seen as a form of disrespect, as women are equal to male family members in every way, and should be allowed their own personal form of grieving and closure.
Additionally, some youngsters – while still following certain practices, say that the main purpose of sanskaar isn’t being valued, in these modern times. They feel that in the olden days, it was a spiritual concept put in place to serve some benefit. It was something that might have had immense significance in earlier times, and was seen as an essential practice in everyday life. But lately, the entire theory has become far more materialistic, which has warped the practice of it. Some state that the meanings behind many of its practices have started to become obsolete, especially in the minds of the modern - day Indian. For instance, to this day, many people of the older generations deem it fit to comment on how a young woman chooses to present herself. Many scorn the idea of wearing western clothes or getting tattooed, as it isn’t “a part of our culture”, and because it supposedly will soil their sanksaar. This notion of attributing one’s way of expressing themselves to their moral beliefs is not only backward and narrow-minded, but also extremely problematic to the psyche of a young person.
Sanskaar, as a whole, is a subject that is extremely multi-faceted. It can also be interpreted, and practiced in unique ways. The Indian Millienials of today are an enigma in themselves. We’re opinionated, multi-talented and extremely ‘woke’. So it’s no surprise that a concept like sanskaar – something we’ve grown up with listening to our entire lives – has formed a strong basis for the kind of people that we are, and will continue to be.